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Divorce Stress Management Method

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In 2005, it became clear to me that my first husband and I were heading towards a divorce.  Our son was only two years old at that time. My husband and I had met in law school and started a law firm together, which we had co-operated over the course of several years.  Even though my legal practice was devoted to divorce litigation, facing the prospect of my own divorce suddenly paralyzed me with stress and fear.

Divorce stress is medically documented to cause lack of focus, chronic anxiety, worry, insomnia, weight gain, heart disease and a weakened immune system.  In short, the stress from a divorce wears a person down; and while I knew it on a professional level, I was now experiencing it first hand.

In my darkest hours, I found myself sitting on my laundry room floor, knees pulled up against my chest while I wondered: “How will I get myself up off this floor to face the train wreck that I have made out of my life?”  During this time of divorce transition, I meditated, exercised in nature (hiking/skiing) and learned to engage in creative visualization to map out a positive future.  I also learned to take full ownership of how my choices and behavior perpetuated the divorce conflict with my husband.

As the approach I took proved helpful in getting me off the laundry room floor, amicably resolving my divorce and salvaging a friendship with my ex who supports a positive co-parenting relationship for our son, I realized I had done something unique. This lead me to write my book, “Divorce the Drama“, aimed at teaching my effective methodology for divorce stress management, which became my opportunity to share the “secret” to my success.

As professionals working with clients who are stressed and unfocused due to divorce, we can use the Divorce The Drama (DTD) methodology to help teach them how to better manage stress while shifting their focus from negative to positive.


The DTD methodology teaches:

1) Self awareness

2) Benefit of a ‘Drama Detox’ where you get space from your ex and rebuild emotional independence

3) Promotes positive creative visualization that leads to empowerment and an improved sense of self and purpose.

The DTD methodology encourages the client to pivot their focus and shift their energy from negative to positive when speaking of future outcomes.  This shift is immensely empowering and stress reducing as it enlists the client to actively focus on attracting what they want for themselves, reduces indecision, anxiety, and worry in this present moment.  The result is a client who can productively help his/her legal counsel to help them get them through the divorce process successfully.

Learn more about the DTD methodology in my presentation at the ADFP Annual Catalyst Conference taking place in October.


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About the Author:

Melissa Sindeband Dragon, Esq. has been a Divorce Trial Attorney for 17 years and founded the first Holistic Family Law Practice in Massachusetts. She is the creator/author of the Divorce the Drama Methodology, a " No-Drama Guide and Program for Managing any 'EX'. She is the founding member of C.A.R.E. - Child Advocacy Rights Education, and hosts I.E.P Educational Seminars & Workshops in person and online. She is a frequent guest legal commentator on radio and television, as well as stars in her own "Divorce the Drama!" video blog series on YouTube, and is the radio host of "Divorce the Drama with Melissa Dragon" on BlogTalkRadio. Melissa serves on the Board of Nazareth Girl's Academy, as well as the Boston Women Connect Organization as part of her ongoing commitment to mentorship and empowerment of women through entrepreneurial endeavors. She is remarried, living near Boston with her husband, son, daughter and pet Beagles, "Buster" and "Daisy", and incredibly cool cat, "NINJA KITTY".

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